Try this fun self-quiz to find out your dominant Communication Style. Afterwards read about the different styles and reflect on how you can work with others of a different style. Choose the number of the statement that most closely resembles you:
1. At a large social gathering, you are most likely to:
b. talk one-on-one mostly with people you already know.
c. use the opportunity to make important contacts.
d. leave as soon as it is polite to do so.
2. When you first arrive at a meeting you are usually
b. ...purposely a bit late, you like to get there when things have started happening already.
c. ...arrive right on time and feel impatient if the meeting starts late.
d. ...arrive early so that you can be ready and organized when the meeting starts.
3. If you were famous in your field, which career would most suit you?
b. Head of a company
4. What style of entertainment do you most enjoy watching?
b. Something quirky and intellectual.
c. Something political or satirical.
d. Something wild, outrageous and/or fun.
5. Of these four personality traits, you consider your strongest to be:
6. The statement that most closely describes you is:
b. Rational and quick-witted.
c. Sensitive and reliable.
d. Creative and fiery.
7. Which appeals to you the most?
b. Creating harmonious human relationships.
c. Discovering the secret behind a complex mystery.
d. Going to an exciting social event.
8. Which rules you more?
b. Your head
c. Your wallet
d. Your libido
9. New and non-routine interaction with others:
b. ...revitalizes you, if you have a special connection with someone in the process.
c. ...taxes your reserves, and you arent afraid to let people know it.
d. ...taxes your reserves, so you quietly slip away when no one is watching.
10. When doing group projects, which part of the process is most important to you?
b. Sorting out who is playing what role in the project.
c. Organizing the way the project is done.
d. Making sure the process of doing it is fun and exciting.
11. If you suddenly have some spare time on a weekend, what you usually most WANT to do is:
b. ...have some quality time with one or a just a few people.
c. ...get a number of important things done on your TO DO list.
d. ...focus your energy on one specific hobby or project.
12. You want to buy a special gift for a new friend that you dont know very well. You are most likely to:
b. Carefully find just the right thing, after much comparison-shopping.
c. Buy the same special gift you always buy for special people.
d. Get someone else to buy the gift, or just give your friend some money.
13. Which description most fits you?
b. Animated and gregarious
c. Focused and efficient
d. Cooperative and gentle
14. Most of the time, when working, you prefer:
b. To be an integral part of a team working together.
c. To influence the team in new and creative directions
d. To be the leader and structure-maker for the team
15. When the phone rings do you
b. ...look forward to the call, but wait a few rings before answering.
c. ...deal with whoever it is quickly and efficiently.
d. ...hope someone else will answer it.
16. Your favorite type of clothing to wear:
b. A unique ensemble that makes a statement.
c. An expensive-looking power outfit.
d. Something easy-going and nice.
17. Which genre of fiction to you most prefer:
b. Feel-good story or romance
c. Epic, historical or action
d. Comedy, psychological thriller, glitzy
18. Which is more admirable:
b. The ability to take charge in a chaotic situation.
c. The ability to motivate others to succeed.
d. The ability to make people feel comfortable and included.
19. In terms of comedy, I most closely identify with people who can:
b. tell a good joke.
c. create great characters through movement, voice, costume, etc.
d. tell a witty one-liner, pun, or wordplay.
20. If a conflict arises between a friend and I, my first reaction is to:
b. make sure the relationship doesnt get damaged.
c. avoid that person for a while.
d. find a compromise, where we both get at least part of what we want.
Communication Style Quiz - Answers
Circle the answers you chose. Then, count the number of As, Ds, Ns, and Cs you have at the bottom
1. a. D b. N c. A d. C
2. a. N b. D c. A d. C
3. a. D b. A c. C d. N
4. a. N b. C c. A d. D
5. a. N b. A c. D d. C
6. a. C b. A c. N d. D
7. a. A b. N c. C d. D
8. a. N b. C c. A d. D
9. a. D b. N c. A d. C
10. a. N b. A c. C d. N
11. a. D b. N c. D d. C
12. a. D b. N c. C d. A
13. a. A b. D c. C d. N
14. a. C b. N c. D d. A
15. a. D b. N c. A d. C
16. a. C b. D c. A d. N
17. a. C b. N c. A d. D
18. a. C b. A c. D d. N
19. a. N b. A c. D d. C
20. a. A b. N c. C d. D
Total As _____
Total Ds ______
Total Ns ______
Total Cs ______
Total should come to 20
Read on about the various Communication styles. Keep in mind, the descriptions that follow are extreme examples to illustrate how they differ. Most people are a combination of the four styles, and some people are so unique, they dont fit into any quadrant. Use the descriptions simply as a guideline to help you see how workplace communications can be greatly affected by an individuals style
Demonstrators are people-oriented, fast-paced and enthusiastic. They usually have more open and casual body language. They tend to be animated and outgoing, and prefer an informal atmosphere. Demonstrators can be outrageous, spontaneous, excitable and sociable. They are ideas people who like to be in the limelight. If over-balanced in this style some weaknesses may show up such as being unreliable, self-centered, overly optimistic and indiscriminate.
How to recognize Demonstrators
They tend to:
be somewhat disorganized
have trouble being on time and keeping track of details
wear bright colors
sit in an open posture
take the initiative in the conversation
laugh easily and loudly
like to talk about themselves
Types of professions where you find many Demonstrators
Public Relations Officer
Famous people who are predominantly Demonstrators
Assertors are fast-paced and direct, like Demonstrators, but are more task-oriented, than people-oriented. They tend to be hard working, ambitious, leader types. They are good at making decisions quickly and efficiently. They are goal-oriented, assertive and confident. Assertors are the take-charge people who let nothing stop them. If over-balanced in this style some weaknesses may show up such as being too impatient, competitive and judgmental.
How to recognize Assertors
They tend to:
like timeliness and efficiency
look and appear powerful and formal
sit in an erect posture
be highly discriminating in many areas (people, opportunities, food, etc.)
laugh less frequently than demonstrators, maintain a more serious demeanor
take a leadership role in most situations
ask pointed or challenging questions
have strong opinions and creative ideas to share
Types of professions where you find many Assertors
Hard-driving newspaper reporter
Famous people who are predominantly Assertors
George C. Scott
Contemplators are task-oriented like Assertors. However they are more indirect and slow-paced. Contemplators tend to be analytical, detail-oriented, thinker types. They are persistent, good problem solvers, and pride themselves on their orderliness and accuracy. Often seen alone, they tend to have quiet, low-key personalities. If over-balanced in this style some weaknesses may show up such as being too withdrawn, rigid, closed-minded, and overly pessimistic.
How to recognize Contemplators
They tend to:
wear conservative, simple, functional clothing
sit in a closed posture
keep to themselves
not initiate conversations, wait for you to do that
take copious notes
maintain meticulous organization
stay serious, rarely laugh
like to hear facts, figures, statistics and proof
Types of professions where you find many Contemplators
Famous people who are predominantly Contemplators
Narrators are slow-paced and indirect like Contemplators, but they are more people-oriented like Demonstrators. They are warm, friendly, gentle and cooperative. They highly value relationships over goals. They are good at listening, have a sweet temperament, and tend to be open-minded. Most people find them to be loving, and emotionally intuitive. If over-balanced in this style it can show up as overly meek and easily sidetracked.
How to recognize Narrators
They tend to:
come across as very accommodating and helpful
wear casual, simple clothing, nothing too loud
take the initiative to create relationships, like to both talk and listen
have pictures of family on their desk
laugh quietly and often (but sometimes theyre laughing just to be polite)
show gratitude easily
Types of professions where you find many Narrators
Human Resources Manager
Famous people who are predominantly Narrators
Mary Tyler Moore
Jack Canfield (Editor of the Chicken Soup for the Soul books)
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