Monday, June 9, 2008

Sexless Marriage Survival Skills

Enduring a sexless marriage is no easy endeavor. The feelings of rejection, inadequacy, and deep insecurity can challenge any man's masculinity or woman's femininity. Most importantly as an individual you need to be good to yourself and not come down hard on yourself.

Life is a learning process. Marriage is no different. Living with and unconditionally loving anyone day and night is no easy task. Therefore give yourself a pat on the back just for being willing to play and endure another day. That being said know that living with you is no walk in the park either. Each individual has their own nuances and peculiarities that make cohabitation challenging.

Nevertheless if you are married this is what you signed up for. That being said have a laugh and don't take yourself too seriously. Live and let live. Give yourself the freedom to fail and provide your spouse the same. Unconditional love is a new concept for many who live self-absorbed lives. However unconditional love is the very thing that resurrects dead feelings and emotions.

Never negatively comment about your spouse in the bedroom. Focus on your likes rather than your dislikes. God only gave us all one body, which we should care for and cherish. Begin with honoring your body as the divine temple it is that ultimately was designed to house the spirit within.

Accentuate the positives and eliminate the negatives. Yet when necessary stand up for yourself should your spouse be given to continual criticism and tearing you down. Whenever my wife points out my stomach, I touch her thighs. She immediately jerks back in offense to which I respond saying I only brought it up to give you a taste of your own medicine.

Such ridiculing remarks does not endear us to one another. It is better to let it go and choose to love rather than lessen one another. When you diminish your spouse you diminish yourself because you are one. Besides you chose to marry that person so what does that say about you?

Live positively, express yourself affectionately, and concerning your weaknesses communicate transparently. It is the human tendency show empathy to the suffering and afflicted. If you are troubled and tormented by your body image, communicate that. Honesty is liberating.

I often shield complaints from people with: "Love me or leave me." Another personal favorite is, "I love me so much. I hope you will too!"

You've got to celebrate and love yourself before anyone else will. That being said if your spouse withholds sex from you or is quick to criticize don't let it bother you. Be secure in yourself and the God who marvelously created you.

So what if you are not the most sexually competent person in the bedroom. Nevertheless be confident as that is contagious. We are attracted to those who uphold and love themselves. If you don't love you how can anyone else?

You are the only you there will ever be. Therefore rejoice and celebrate your uniqueness and difference. Delight in the Creator who made you and watch and see if others don't begin to.

Never let your spouse get you down. The sun shines above the clouds.

No matter how much romance, nice dinners, fancy dates, weekend getaways, kind words, loving deeds, and delightful gifts you give some people they still find something to complain about. You don't have to be perfect. Just be passionate!

Stop living for others and start living for you and purposefully for your Creator. It will do wonders for you and revolutionize your life. People treat you the way you allow them to. What you tolerate will dominate.

You can live without sex, but you cannot live without love. Love and be good to yourself today!

Refuse to get bitter when people treat you poorly. Practice loving unconditionally. Overcome evil with good and live large like you should.

Master the art of loving and listening without becoming angry. Improve yourself while loving yourself unconditionally along the way.

Transform your sex life by reason of your love life.

Paul Davis is a highly sought after professional speaker, life purpose coach, worldwide minister, and change master.

Paul is the author of several books including United States of Arrogance, Breakthrough for a Broken Heart; Adultery: 101 Reasons Not to Cheat; Are You Ready for True Love; Stop Lusting & Start Living; Waves of God; Supernatural Fire; Poems that Propel the Planet; and God vs. Religion.

Paul's compassion for people & passion to travel has taken him to over 50 countries of the world where he has had a tremendous impact. Paul's organization Dream-Maker Ministries is building dreams, breaking limitations & reviving nations.

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